Ladies - gentlemen - get your frilly seafoam green outfits primed. Katr and Roro are getting married!!
And now for the Creampuffs Are Getting Gay Married FAQ:
FAQ: Roro? Getting gay married? I thought you always said that the great thing about being gay is that you weren't expected to get married. And that even if you COULD get gay married you wouldn't! Because queer people should be creating their own rituals and striking down oppressive social mores!
Q: Well, I changed my mind, for a variety of reasons that I'll no doubt elaborate on in later posts. But yes, on the one hand, as a queer person, I DO find it problematic to be participating in and perpetuating a heteronormative ritual which has historically cast women as chattel BLAH BLAH BLAH look at our RINGS!!
Katr's Ring:
My Ring:
Q: Roro . . . is that a plaid flannel pillow case underneath your ring?
A: Actually no, that's my wedding outfit. HAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAA! No, seriously, it is.
Q: Soooo . . . who proposed?
A: Officially? I did. And since we'd already gotten our rings, I proposed via a new video iPod instead! And I had it engraved. It says "Marry Me!!" on it. More an imperative than a request, but I wasn't taking any chances.
A: You proposed with an iPOD?? Isn't that kind of . . . impersonal?
Q: Well, she's been DYING for one and she LOVES gadgets and it was the first time I really surprised her with anything and she totally cried. HA ha! So I feel like it worked out okay.
Q: Soooo . . . if you proposed, does that make you the man?
A: Yes. Yes it does. I am the man.
Q: Have you told your parents yet?
A: Yes - because there's nothing like finding out your kid's getting hitched because you READ IT ON HER BLOG.
Q: What'd they say?
A: Well, they think that Katr is the Second Coming (and hey, sometimes she is! If you know what I mean. And I think that you do) so they were totally thrilled. We're seeing them for Christmas this weekend, at which time my father plans to have The Talk with Katr - the same talk that my mother's dad had with him when my parents were getting married. You know, about her roles and responsibilities as my spouse. Plus - and he would never say this - my dad is itching to get rid of these dowry goats he's been keeping for me. Num-Num keeps chewing on his files.
Q: Did your mom immediately call her 4 sisters, 2 brothers and her parents to tell them the news?
A: Since I've always gotten the news of my cousins' (I have 16 first cousins, 14 on one side, 2 on the other - Dad's family is not so Catholic) weddings secondhand, I assumed that the aunts disseminated the news. I learned on Sunday that, in fact, it is de rigueur for the person who's getting married to call everyone. And so that's how I, Roro, Phone Phobic, spent all of Sunday evening on the phone telling all my mostly-Western-Canada-living, church-going aunts, uncles and grandparents that I was getting gay married. My dad's family? One phone call. My mom's? Seven. You'd better believe I called my lesbian aunt first. But of course, they're all totally coming. Because they're effin' AWESOME.
Q: Why do you keep saying you're getting "gay married"? Isn't "gay married" and "straight married" the same in Canada?
A: Yes, yes it is. But saying "gay married" is funny. So zip it.
